Are you waiting for that epiphany or aha moment for change to just automatically happen?
What if instead you just consistently did what you’re convinced is the right diet and exercise program for you and let it seep into your soul. To become part of your current life without always fighting and struggling.
Dieting is a mind game. Listen and maybe you can settle in and just let the weight loss happen.
Transcript – Subtle Changes (scroll up for Podcast)
Hey, this is Coach Carlene from Thin Brain Training. Thanks for coming back to listen to another one of my podcasts. This is the first podcast in a new ongoing series called Thoughts from Carlene. What I’m going to do in this series is it will be ongoing. So the latest podcasts I do will always be here that aren’t specific to a series or a workshop, or even tips. But this is just what I’m thinking about on each day that I record. And a lot of that comes from my interactions with the women over at my fast weight loss boot camp. So you’re going to get like maybe combinations of what we’ve talked about throughout the week, that may help you in your journey to lose your weight and take control of your life and your health. So today, what I want to talk about is what we did a boot camp last week, it was pretty spectacular. I have to admit we were all super excited about it.
A lot of the women at boot camp have been there for a while. And as I was talking about a couple of them. One all of a sudden realized that while she was under all this stress, she didn’t even consider eating over it. It wasn’t even part of her thought process. She has finally reached the point in her dieting, that what and how she eats along with the walking that we do at camp, is just what she does. It doesn’t seem to mix in with the rest of her life, even though she was in a very stressful situation.
It never occurred to her to eat over it. And that’s one of the biggest things that we’re looking for in changing our fat brain to a thin brain. That ability to let food just be natural for us in whatever diet we decide to live. So that it is not such a strenuous diet that we’re always struggling with but one we come to terms with.
She’s doing the Rawk Starz Diva diet, which is one of the hardest diets around. She reached that point where she just doesn’t shouldn’t even think about it. And the funny part about that is last month, she was talking a lot about how she didn’t think she had it in her to ever reach that point. I finally pointed out to her.
You have reached that point, what are you talking about, you’re there. You’re not struggling anymore with the food or even the walking, you’re just getting up and doing it every day. It’s part of your life now, that is what we are looking for.
Then a second person. And this was super cool. The second person was also under a lot of stress this past week. She wrote and she told me: “I’ve got all this happening, I’m so stressed. Thank God, I have this diet and exercise program. They are (I’m paraphrasing because I like this word), a rock that I can center on to gain my balance back emotionally.
How? Because the Rawk Starz Diva diet that we do, and the walking, those are things she can control. All the other things out there. All these things that are stressing her out are things she doesn’t feel she can control. So she comes back to what she’s doing with us for the food and the exercise. And that’s giving her a sense of balance, a sense of control.
These are the things I look for, in my clients to know that they’re going to be okay, it won’t matter how fast or slow they lose. What matters is they’re okay with what they’re doing. They’ve come to peace with what they’re doing. I’ve been pushing this for years. To not see a diet that you’re doing as a struggle to not feel like you’re in food prison, but just to have it be part of who you are.
Our Rawk Starz Diva diet is a temporary thing. Most people don’t plan on sticking to that diet once they hit goal. In fact, when they do reach a goal, I move them into our whole foods diet program, to start getting them to transition into a diet they can live on for the rest of their lives.
But that’s not the issue.
The issue is, can you accept what you’re doing, and see it as something you can control.
So many people feel so out of control. They feel that way about food and when they come to boot camp or even here to listen to all of this. They feel like they’ve lost control. They can’t do moderation. They binge, they secretly eat, they impulse eat, you know, they have stress and they stress eat, they reward eat, they celebrate eat, and they feel like food has just taken over. That food is now in control of them.
It’s very disturbing to think that food controls you. That lust of the tongue controls you. That’s kind of eerie and icky I think. But to know if you just practice and practice and force yourself not to go off your plan. And stop worrying so much about it. Stop letting it fester regarding how this is not fair. I shouldn’t have to do this. Other people don’t have to eat this way to lose weight. Life is unfair to me. If you just accept this is just how I live now. It all gets much easier.
Pity me gets us absolutely nowhere. The only thing that gets us where we want to go is to push hard and become the person that we want to be not wait for it to happen for us. And when you force yourself to just eat on plan, get your exercise on plan to always do your best. That just becomes part of who you are. Slow, it’s subtle, but it works. It really works. That’s how you develop new habits is by just practicing and practicing and practicing. And then all of a sudden, you realize one day, oh my God, thank God, I control my food. It’s the only thing in my life that feels right at the moment. How cool is that? Isn’t that what we all want?
We don’t want to be defined by our weight, we don’t want to be defined by how we eat. We want to be defined as who we are as a person. And if we’re always fighting what we have to do to become that person, we’re never going to get there. We’re always going to be in the fight.
But if you practice and practice and don’t complain to yourself about it constantly, don’t convince yourself it’s unfair, then what do you know, before you know it, it’s just part of who you are. And it makes you feel better. It makes you feel more balanced in your day to day life.
That’s what I hope for with every single person who comes through any program I offer is that they will allow new ways, new habits, new thoughts to just become part of who they are in subtle, slow ways. Instead of trying to search for that epiphany, or that aha moment, just to force yourself to do it.
You just do it. And once you’ve just done it over and over and over and over again. The struggle dissipates. And you just realize, no, this is just what I do. It’s what I do. It’s not fun. It’s not sexy. It’s boring. But so what. It’s what I do. Now I need to go out and handle all this other stuff in my life. Because the food, the exercise, the weight is handled.
That’s a separate portion of what I do and it is handled. It’s not something I have to worry about anymore. It’s just something I do. Imagine how freeing that is? really imagine how freeing that is. That’s what we want in our life. How many years have you been bounded, chained to your weight, your diet, your exercise? Always, always just chained to them.
But what if, what if it’s just part of who you are, and you don’t even think about it, you just do it? Naturally, you just do it because it’s what you do. It’s not what you fight yourself to do. So this was a huge week for all of us. And all of the women at Camp really got into this. And they started having aha moments. Like oh my god, I don’t have to hate eating the good food, the healthy food for me. And one woman told us and this was pretty exciting. She said, you know, for two years, I ate whatever I wanted whenever I wanted, and it got me nowhere. And now I’m eating like this. It’s letting me lose the weight. I’m getting somewhere. Why would I go back to that old way that didn’t make me happy all that food did not make me happy.
I feel good. That’s what we want. That’s what you want. I’m not telling you to join boot camp, I’m telling you to find peace in what you’re doing. To look for the good things about it instead of always looking at the negative. So many people all they ever focus on is a negative of it. Oh, it’s too much work. Oh, I don’t have time. You know, oh, it’s I have to prep food. You know, I don’t want to do this. Well, of course, if you don’t want to do it, you’re not going to do it. But if you just switch that over to Oh, well look at this. I know this works for me. This has worked for me in the past. I think I’m just going to do it. I’m not going to fight out. I’m not going to fight myself. I’m not going to rebel. I’m just going to do it. And then let it just become part of what I do. And enjoy the benefits which is weight loss and feeling healthier if you’re doing you know a healthy diet and being proud of yourself. It’s nothing nicer than feeling proud of yourself.
One of my favorite sayings is, damn I’m good. My kids hate that. But it’s been that way for a long time. Because when I do something I’m proud of myself. I remind myself damn I’m good and that gives me the courage to push on and do even better. So that’s what today’s podcast was all about. It’s to let subtle change happen.
Don’t always look for epiphanies and revelations, and aha moments, just find something that works for you. And then go do it. Don’t fight it. Make sure it’s the right thing for you make sure they don’t people come to boot camp, and it’s not the right thing for them. And that’s fine. But you need to find something that’s the right thing for you. That you look at that. And you say to yourself, this is sound, this is solid. And it lets me lose weight. This is what I’m going to do. And I’m going to feel satisfied on it. I’m not going to eat over any of my old reasons. I’m not going to fall for dieting ploys from the past, I’m not going to get into this pity me, or why do I have to diet and no one else does. I’m just going to look at this. I’m going to say it works. I’m going to follow it to the tee. I’m going to do the exercise that I plan on doing. And I’m just going to let everything else fall into place.
That’s the only way you can get to your goal on any diet and keep it off. I mean, people come to boot camp and they can lose weight really fast. But then they don’t allow any change to happen. They fight it the whole time. And the whole time all they’re thinking about is what they get to eat when they get to their goal.
If that’s how you feel when you hit goal then you’re not going to make it in maintenance because all you’ve wanted is to jump off the ship and swallow all that water your going to sink fast.
All right. Well, that’s it for me. I hope if you enjoy this podcast, please share it with others.
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